We Rise Together
So far, one of the hardest things in life for me to understand and accept from/about other people is this love of an underdog – not in sports/entertainment style competition… but, in LIFE. I’ve been hurt repeatedly by people very “close” to me (especially those that some might say are almost required to [but, in the end – unable to] love me) by this specific frequency/phenomenon. It’s very easy to feel … it just hits you in the gut that they’d rather you be doing poorly / be worse off / have something bad happen to you… you can feel it. They can’t hide it very well… it’s that they’d be so much more comfortable if you would come down / be less / stay stuck in a lower frequency and/or level of some sort. The level isn’t even always of the same measurement – it’s not even always your status or anything monetary (although, often it is)… it could just be your energy, your spark, your vibration, etc. They just want you to come down… to be less.
Somewhere along the line, the underdog lovers chose to settle. They settled for how much easier they find it to picture you coming down, rather than envisioning themselves rising up or cycling up to meet you. I suppose they feel threatened somehow – and this keeps them stuck in this cycle of wishing less on others. AND, when they do that to others, they are doing it to themselves by settling for and holding that vision of that version of themselves – therefore, perpetuating the cycle and cementing their own lower frequency.
Personally, I have never measured people in this way. I just haven’t. I’ve been nearly crippled by empathy (working on that) since I was a tiny person and it never really left any room to experience people in the way this type of labeling/categorizing and reacting to according to how I see myself and how it makes me feel type of interaction. In that sense, the empathy wasn’t really crippling after all. When you’re always feeling people rather than classifying them, it allows a completely different type of experience or Beingness together (or even one sided in many cases). In approaching this topic in this space and pondering it, I can see the gift in my specifically designed for me approach and experience of connecting. I am so grateful I never had to do this hurtful thing to others, yet, I can have more compassion, and even forgiveness, for the harm that others do to themselves by interacting in this way.
The only positive thing about the underdog lovers is that this approach to others draws clear distinctions for gauging whether an actual alignment is possible. If there is one thing to stay away from on a path of seeking to embody better and better versions of yourself – it is the underdog lover. That frequency is a trap and can keep you stuck in lower frequencies and lesser versions of yourself.
Just a pondering and processing little write up… real-eyes-ing the impetus, releasing the pain, expanding the compassion and most importantly – cycling up – NEVER SHRINKING.
May our Souls guide us to the places where the other Souls celebrate our deep and beautiful risings and we continuously lift each other up!
So much Love to All! – S